If Judas could betray Jesus, one of the most loyal friends anyone could ever have, how loyal do you think people in today's society really are?
When I tell people that I have a lot of associates, but only two people that I consider friends, the reaction I always receive is, "Why?" It's not that I have trust issues, nor is it that I don't show and prove myself to be friendly. Honestly I'm not crazy, and my loyalty can be compared to the relationship a dog has with its' owner. The thing is that I see how people interact with their "friends." How they talk about each other behind one another's backs, and are "shits and giggles" when they are face-to-face, and it's sad.
The problem with our generation is that people are too quick to label someone as a "friend" without truly getting to know them. We live in a world where we believe we know one another just because we're Facebook friends, or because we follow one another on Twitter or Instagram. The road to friendship should follow the same path that romance does. Before someone is labeled a friend, they should have proven their loyalty to you, earned your trust, and not be labeled a confidant simply because you work together, have a few common interests, or for any other superficial reason.
When we allow everyone to be our "friend" we end up letting a lot of people with ill intentions into our lives. Friends are supposed to be there to cheer you up, be an extension of your family. It is important that those who are close to you enrich your life in ways you could have never imagined. Not suck the God-given life out of you.
I have compiled a list of friends whom you should avoid at all cost. After reading this, go through your contacts, and truly examine those in your life who you call a "friend." Indeed all of the characters in this list may seem like a lot of fun, but trust and believe that what lies beneath the surface is the lava of hell, just waiting to erupt. If any of your friends fit into these categories, it may be wise to demote them from friend to associate.
THE SLUT
One of the biggest threats to any friendship, is when someone has sex with their friend's partner, and it happens more than you think. If you are friends with someone who cheats on their boyfriend, someone whose an extreme flirt who always seems to end up kissing everyone at the club by the end of the night. Drop his ass.
This guy shows that he has no loyalty to anyone but himself, and if given the right opportunity he will screw you over, and not think twice about fucking your man, all while relenting to you how lucky you are to have such a great boyfriend. And he would know since he's been getting dick-downed by him every night.
It may seem fun living vicariously through your friends' sexual adventures, but be cautious that you and your man don't become a part of his story.
THE COMPETITOR
Competition is healthy in every relationship because it can bring out the best in us, but for some it manages to bring out the worst, and the results can be disastrous. When things get nasty, and devious intentions begin to sink in, the competition between friends follows that of competition between strangers, and soon jealously begins to poison the purity of friendship. So what's the antidote? Let-them-go.
THE LEECH/SELFISH
As friends we are supposed to be there for one another, but when money is involved, things can get extremely messy. A friend who constantly borrows your belongings, money, or depends too much on you is one who definitely needs to be avoided at all cost. Who wants to be in a friendship where one person is constantly giving, while the other continuously takes and takes.
If all your friend does is take from you, and he never gives anything back, there’s no point in being friends. As a friend he is supposed to help make life better for you, not put you on the brink of bankruptcy.
Even if this selfish friend reluctantly, or passively does things for you every now and then, he's not a real friend. His intentions are to show you reciprocation every once in a while to keep himself on good terms, so that he may still receive the benefits of being your "friend." Ditch that!
THE MIME
Imitation is considered to be the sincerest form of flattery, but a friend who looks or behaves like your photocopy image can be very scary. Surprisingly I see this a lot in homosexual friendships. When you go to the club you can tell whose friends with who because they all have on the same outfits, and it's screaming desperation. Get your own personality! No grown man should be looking up to a struggling queen as their inspiration. You need to have your own identity built on your own life lessons, so that when none else is around, you still know how to survive.
DR. PHIL
"I was just venting, I didn't ask you for a therapy session." All of us confide in our friends and ask for advice from time-to-time, but when your friend starts acting like a paid therapist who takes the initiative to dissect every aspect of your life, trying to find a diagnosis when his shit is all fucked up, it can become extremely annoying and depressing. You should never feel like your friend perceives you as being a screw-up, and your self-esteem should never suffer at the hand of someone who claims they care so much about you.
WILD BOY
He's dangerous, visits a different club seven days a week, has a new man every night, and calls you the next morning wondering what happened the night prior. I have no time for sloppy men. If you are always getting in trouble for your friends' mistakes, having to make up lies and cover for them, it isn't worth having him around. Ultimately his actions will not only ruin your reputation, but in the end it could cause some serious harm to your other more valuable relationships.
THE WHINER
I cannot stomach a grown ass man who is always whining about nothing. Reach between your legs, realize that you have a dick, and handle life like a man. This type of friend is never satisfied with anything he has, and all of your conversations end up with him whining and complaining about how God has dealt him a bad hand, all men suck, blah-blah-blah. Come on, bitch don't kill my vibe.
These people are often mood killers. Your day could be filled with nothing but candy rainbows, butterflies, and sunshine, until you begin a conversation with them. Soon the dark clouds move in, and a tornado rips the happiness right from under you.
THE MOOD KING
This friend is crazy as hell, and probably needs some professional help because their mood swings change from being nice to totally snappy all within a matter of seconds. These types of people end up using everyone around them as punching bags. The person driving in front of them, the cashier at the store, their mother, brother, and eventually you. Who needs to be around someone whose moods swing like a dude with eleven inches? As appetizing as that may seem, in reality these men are no good to keep around.
The tribulations of life can be light as air when you have wonderful friends to share it with, but if any of these types of friends are a part of your inner circle, every day will feel like a ton of bricks. Spot the toxic friends in your life and stay away from them, for your own sanity. And if you so happen to be one of these friends whom I'm speaking of, examine yourself and think, "Do I want to drive everyone away from me, and end up being lonely?" Chances are you don't, because while we may like to think that we are a one man army, truth is it takes all of us to make this world a better place.