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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: M-ASS-IVE ATTACK
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Nothing like them NY dudes.
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BIG BOOTY STRIPPER UNDER THE STROBE LIGHTS
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WATCH: TAMARTIANS COME OUT IN FULL EFFECT FOR "SHE, ME, HER" TAMAR BRAXTON DURING IN-STORE APPEARANCE, PERFORMS MEDLEY ON 'GOOD MORNING AMERICA'
Even if you aren't a fan of Tamar Braxton, which is pure blasphemy, you have to respect her hustle which has led to the most successful era of her entire career that began thirteen years ago with the rousing "If You Don't Wanna Love Me."
In a short amount of time she has managed to be the only sister to use the Braxton Family Values television show to her advantage, and break out of her sister's lingering shadow. A spin-off, the birth of her first child, a seat on daytime talk show The Real, and a highly anticipated new album.
Tamartians came out in full force to support of Tamar Braxton at an in-store autograph signing at Best Buy in Valley Stream, NY presented by WBLS on Tuesday.
Armed with posters bearing “Tamar-isms” (“She Won,” “She. Me. Her”), hundreds of fans waited in long lines that wrapped around the building to get a moment with the reality TV star, whose album Love and War album is in stores now.
It took her about a year to record the album. “I feel like it’s my best work yet,” Tamar told Robin Roberts during an appearance where she performed a medley that included "Love and War," my summer anthem "The One," and my fall obsession "All The Way Home." She continued, “Last season of ‘Tamar & Vince,’ in our relationship, we went through a lot. I like to say this is the soundtrack to our relationship, Love and War.”
The album is pure fire! K. Michelle may want to purchase her copy and learn how to make an album that doesn't sound like a verbal suicide note set to a base-line.
Continue reading to watch her performance.
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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: BOOTY CLAPPING WITHOUT HANDS
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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: WHITE BOY HAS GOT CAKES FOR DECADES
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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: DROP THAT ASS
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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: FREAK MY SHIT, UNDERWEAR VERSION
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NEW VIDEO: QUI QUI MARTIN "FEELING IT" AND "PINK MATTER"
Since the amicable split of R&B girl group Isyss, Qui Qui Martin has been teasing us with little snippets of music here and there. In November of last year her first mixtape Bmore2la was released. The 13 track effort included remakes of popular songs such as "Get Along With You" by Kelis, The Roots "Break You Off", The Weeknd's "The Zone", as well as an interesting remake of Aaliyah's "Four Page Letter".
Now several months later the rising diva has released the visuals for her own versions of "Feeling It" and "Pink Matter."
Martin is currently in the studio prepping her first album Melodic Seduction. There's no doubt that Qui Qui's vocals are far more superior than those who are dominating the Billboard charts at this moment, she just needs a stylist or a gay best friend ASAP.
Continue reading for your formal introduction to Qui Qui Martin.
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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: THUG WITH A PHAT-BUBBLE ASS TALKING
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SCHONESEEELEN VIDEO: BOOTY BUTT CHEEKS PART II
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SCHONESEELEN BOOTYMAIL VIDEO: "INSTAGRAM THAT HOE" FEATURING D TYSON
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BLAST FROM THE PAST: TIGER TYSON
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Chocolate, so delicious, and look he has those dimples in his lower back.
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SCHONESEELEN VIDEO: HIS BODY IS EXTREMELY BLESSED
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THE GENTLEMAN, TYSON BECKFORD RETURNS IN THE SEPTEMBER ISSUE OF UPTOWN MAGAZINE
Some men get sexier with age, and supermodel Tyson Beckford is one of them. At the age of 42, he is looking better than ever in the latest issue of UPTOWNMagazine.
Beckford has become a role model over the years, helping people such as actor Taye Diggs become comfortable within his own skin.
In an interview with My Brown Baby, while promoting his book Chocolate Me!, Diggs who is also an astonishing 42, praised men such as Beckford. "...when I saw Tyson Beckford hailed as this beautiful man by all people, that caused a shift in my being."
Shot by photographer Kah Poon, the former Ralph Lauren Polo model highlights the essence of a quintessential gent with just a little bit of steam in fall’s classic looks for men. Designers such as Christian Louboutin, Calvin Klein, Brioni, David Yurman, and several others are highlighted in the seven page spread.
More sexiness after the break.
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YOU DOWN WITH OPA: OTHER PEOPLES' AGENDAS, NOT YOUR PROBLEM
Other people may have their own agenda for our life; we can value their opinion, but we don’t have
to take it to heart. As children, our parents had dreams for us. They wanted us to excel in school, and to do whatever was necessary to reach our highest potential. Later in life, friends may try to set us up with their idea of the perfect partner or the ideal job.
Significant others may have agendas for us, too. People close to us may have ideas about how we should live our lives, ideas that usually come from love and the desire they have for us to be happy. Other times, they may come from a place of need within them--whether it is the parent who wants us to live out his or her dreams or the friend or spouse who wants us to play an already-defined role. Whatever the case, we can appreciate and consider those peoples' input, but ultimately we must follow our own inner voice.
There may come a time when all the suggestions can become overbearing. We may feel that the
people we love don’t approve of our judgment, which can hurt our feelings. It can interfere with the choices we make for our lives by making us doubt ourselves, or filling a void with their wishes before we’ve had a chance to decide what we want. It can affect us energetically as well. We may have to deal with feelings of resistance or the need to shut ourselves off from them. But we can take some time to rid ourselves of any unnecessary doubts and go within to become clear on what we desire for ourselves.
We can tell our loved ones how much we appreciate their thoughts and ideas, but that we need to
live our own lives and make our own decisions. We can explain that they need to let us learn from our own experiences rather than rob us of wonderful life lessons and the opportunity to fine-tune our own judgment. When they see that we are happy with our lives and the path we are taking to reach our goals, they
can rest assured that all we need them to do is to share in our joy.
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DO YOU HAVE A DATING ADDICTION: WAYS TO IDENTIFY AND CONQUER THIS COMMON PROBLEM
Just like that first cigarette, or that first sip, one stroke of the dick can be addicting.
We are living in a society where not only are objects disposable, but people are as well. With social media and dating sites becoming ever prevalent, the sea of faces soon become indistinguishable, leading to the idea that no one is special, and everyone is replaceable.
Sometimes we give up on relationships way too soon. At the first sign of someone not meeting our laundry list of expectations, or that moment when one of their personality flaws first reveals itself, we call it quits. I'm not saying that we have to stay with someone whom you know for sure you aren't compatible with, but when first getting to know someone, give them a chance.
Some of us have built up such a low-tolerance for bullshit due to our past relationships and casual encounters that we don't allow time for explanation and redemption, leading into a closet full of old, wrinkled, potential relationships that if they had been taken care of, with the wrinkles ironed out, may have led to the love of our lives.
So are you addicted to dating, and if so what are some of the signs:
ALWAYS A FIRST, NEVER A SECOND
If you are the type of person who is continuously going on first dates that rarely lead to second ones, you may have an addiction to dating. Often times we formulate our opinions of a person based on first impression, but this usually isn't a good idea. Some people are shy, or they may be a private person who needs to feel comfortable enough to come out of their shell and showcase who they really are. On a second date, they may feel confident enough in their position with you, to where you get to experience the awesome person they really are.
YOU HAVE A VERY STRICT IDEAL
There is nothing wrong with having standards when it comes to dating, and if you don't have any that may be one of your problems. But we shouldn't be so stringent that if a guy fails to meet one of our most diminutive standards, we vow to never see them again because of that.
Some of our standards are plain outrageous. He has to be a certain height, his shoes must be on point, he has to have tattoos, his penis must be a certain length and thickness, his bank account has to read a specific number, can't be bald, he has to have a video vixen's body, yet he can't show any signs of femininity, and the list of ridiculousness goes on.
When we are so specific on our ideal, we alienate a lot of men who could be right for us.
CONSTANTLY ON THE PROWL
Are you one of those people can't go a day or even a couple of hours without checking your online profile? Do you always feel as though if you aren't logged in at all times, you may miss someone--or they may miss you? If so, you may have a dating addiction.
So what steps can be taken to cure your dating addiction:
GIVE HIM A CHANCE
Unless someone is rude, annoying as all hell, or the thought of them completely repulses you, if the opportunity comes around for a second date, take it. Use this as a chance to get to know them better. Maybe they didn't give you the best impression on the first date, due to nerves or whatever the case may have been, but on the second you might be able to see more of them.
Some men try way too hard on the first meeting and end up messing up the mood, so if the attraction is still there, take the offer for another date, and then make your final decision on whether or not you'd like to continue seeing them.
DON'T JUDGE OFF OF ONLINE PHOTOS
In the past I have been guilty of it, and I'm sure some of you gentlemen have as well. When someone would inbox me on Adam4Adam, BGC, and some other random dating sites; before reading their message--I would check out their profile photos, and if they didn't meet the physical test 100%, their email was deleted.
Over time I realized that I was being too critical on the physical, and began noticing that a lot of these men had extraordinary profiles, and what they were looking for coincided with me. Some people just aren't photogenic, so if the dialogue in the profile is good, respond, give them a chance and agree to a date. Maybe you'll find a connection with this person, and once you meet the small physical flaws that you may see, might not be such a huge problem. If he doesn't have that eight pack set of abs, so what he makes you laugh until yours ache. He's a little bit shorter than what you usually date? Who cares his personality adds a couple inches to his height. He doesn't have Trump money? That's fine, he's supporting himself, not taking away from your coins, and he's rich in morals, and substance. Real love is not superficial, and nether should we be when choosing a potential partner.
DON'T MAKE DATING A JOB
Trust me when I tell you that I've been there, turning something that is supposed to be fun, and spontaneous into a full-time job.
When it comes to online dating sites, monitor the amount of time you spend on them. Don't let precious time that could be used elsewhere, be spent searching through hundreds of profiles when there is plenty of life to be lived offline.
Schedule a certain amount of time each day that you will go online, check your messages, respond, email guys who spark your interest, and once that time is up, log off. Ideally 10-20 minutes is enough time to complete all of these tasks, and if you and someone are engaging in a conversation, send your final reply and within it let them know that you are signing off, as to express your interest; not abruptly signing off in mid-convo and coming off as rude or uninterested.
SUSPEND YOUR PROFILE
After the third successful date, your profile should no longer show up in search results, because it should be deleted. The excuse that your chats online are with friends is dangerous since majority of the men online are single, looking for hookups, or are in open relationships. There are plenty of other non-dating social networking sites where you can meet new friends and keep in contact with old ones, where there aren't any nude photos in their profiles.
Through it all it is important to remember that dating should be fun, don't take it so seriously to where you drive yourself insane. If a man isn't your type, enjoy the venue of the date, and try to convert things to a friendship level. And once you’ve began dating someone, have a serious conversation setting the terms and conditions of your budding relationship, whether dating profiles should be deleted, or modified to let others know that you are committed, and serious about staying that way.
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WHAT BECOMES OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS FILLED WITH INFIDELITY, IS IT REPAIRABLE, OR IS IT TIME TO MOVE ON
The above sequence looks very familiar to me. Maybe because I've been through it. "I can't believe it. You cheated on me?! With who?" In the middle of him answering, "Muthafucka I can't believe this shit, I'm a fuck you and him up!" Then the passion kicks in, "After I fuck the hell out of you, first."
Infidelity is the easiest way to completely destroy a relationship because it completely ruins the main foundation of what a union is built upon, trust. In the world of homosexuality we often define what a "relationship" means to us. Without the social norms that are placed upon heterosexual couples, we have the option to choose a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship, based on the agreement that both parties have committed to. For those who have chosen the monogamous route, which even in the gay community, is the norm; infidelity can stir up a mixture of emotions including betrayal, disappointment, and anger. Feelings that have the power to either repair and bring the couple closer together, or cause the demise of what was once supposed to be forever.
If you went by OWN networks' Unfaithful you would get the impression that majority of couples impaled by cheating, survive, but it is actually the complete opposite. It is difficult for couples to have to work through their issues that ultimately lead up to one or both partners seeking attention outside of their relationship, but for the ones who do, the bond between the individuals can exceed what it once was.
When it is revealed that someone in a relationship has cheated both people involved are hurt in some way. Based on the circumstances surrounding the infidelity, the person who cheated may have feelings of disgust, disappointment within themselves, and confused. On the opposite side the victim may feel anger towards the other person as well as themselves, sadness, betrayal, confusion, and loneliness. They begin to wonder if their entire relationship was built on a lie, if the perpetrator ever truly loved them. They may suffer self-esteem issues, trying to figure out what it was that the other man or men had, that could so easily cause their partner to cheat. You feel deceived and throughout all of these emotions you can't help but love the other person, and contemplate on is the relationship is worth saving.
Before you can begin healing a broken relationship after one or both partners have committed the ultimate deed of betrayal, you must first deal with the issue(s) that lead up to the cheating. There are many reasons why people cheat, and here are a few examples:
- Some people have a fear of commitment/ intimacy and so they may cheat to keep themselves from getting too attached, to avoid being controlled, or to avoid feelings of suffocation.
- A lack of monogamous examples in ones' childhood can affect how they view relationships. If someone was raised by a single mother who always had men coming in and out of her life, the child may grow up to think that-that is the norm. If a child sees their father continuously cheating on their mother, but they never see the consequences of such actions, they may deem his behavior as something that is acceptable for men to do.
- Opportunity is probably the simplest reason as some men cheat just because they could.
- Sexual dissatisfaction in a relationship or lack of intimacy.
- A low self-esteem. Some men seek out sex as a means of validating their attractiveness or self-worth.
- Sexual addiction, someone who cannot control their impulses, sexual abuse, or the inclusion of alcohol and drugs which may impair ones' judgement.
- A means to get back at their partner for something they have done, whether it was sexual or non-sexual.
- Unfulfillment in ones' relationship, feeling unwanted or unloved creating an emotional distance. When someone feels an emotional disconnect, they will seek refuge elsewhere, and that could lead to physical infidelity.
- Social pressure, the media idealizes gay culture as being all about sex, influencing some men's decisions.
- Boredom
- Lack of gay role models, friends, or relatives who are monogamous.
As men whether we are gay, bisexual, or straight are more susceptible to cheating because we have the ability to separate our emotions from sex. While non of these are excuses for cheating, they are common reasons why gay men cheat, and it is important to understand the underlying reason that is causing a wedge between you and your partner, if you are determined to rebuild what is now broken.
For the person who was cheated on I'm sure it is a very emotionally confusing time for you. The most important step in the healing process is to allow yourself to feel every emotion without holding anything back. Don't beat yourself up for your partner's betrayal, but surround yourself with positive thoughts about who you are and what you have to offer.
The affair will most certainly be on your mind for what seems to be 24/7 once the discretion is revealed, and this is not out of the norm. Think about things, but don't over-think them to the point where it's affecting your performance on the job or during other daily activities. Try to think about how you will feel six-months from now.
While you are the victim, don't play as though you are completely innocent as we all contribute to the infidelity for one reason or another. Although you didn't influence his decision, you could have contributed to the drama that caused him to seek attention elsewhere. If you want to save your relationship, you have to figure out and understand the underlying issues.
If you have chosen to work on your relationship acknowledge that your partner has realized they've made a mistake, and are working hard to fix it. Don't punish him, verbally or physically assault him, try to pay him back, or any other behavior which is aimed to make him feel bad or guilty. In doing so you create a wider division and that isn't your intended affect. Keep a journal of your emotions, and if you want to scream and shout, write those things down as to get them out, without applying them directly towards him.
Remember that by staying in this relationship after you've been cheated on that you will have to put yourself in a position of vulnerability. And this will take an uncertain amount of time. Let him know that it will take time for him to earn your trust, and don't feel as though you need to rush things, or act according to his pace. As time passes and he continuously proves himself to you, the walls that you have built around your heart will gradually come down.
If you are the one who cheated, the first thing for you to do is disconnect all ties you may have to the person(s) that you've cheated with or those who may have influenced your decision to cheat, such as friends. Remember that you are human and that humans make mistakes, don't be hard on yourself, but instead put that energy towards comforting your partner in any capacity he will allow you to. Take responsibility for your role in things, and come up with a plan of how you alone can prevent this from ever happening again. If your infidelity was a result of being on a social media or dating site, it's time to deactivate that account. If drugs or alcohol played a role in you cheating, cut back or completely abandon your usage.
There is no doubt that your partner is going to bombard you with questions regarding your infidelity, and no matter how many questions he may have it is your responsibility to answer them all. Be honest, and don't respond defensively. If his moods are all over the place be prepared to deal with them, because all of this is apart of his healing process. If you want to gain his trust, dealing with these things is a must.
Expect him to not be as receptive to, and to challenge your love for him. It is going to take time for him to completely trust you again. Focus all of your energy on regaining his trust, work on your communication, acknowledge and understand his feelings, and most importantly let him know that he is the only one you want.
As a couple after determining what the issue or issues are, both partners must ask themselves a series of questions, and be sure to share your answers to these questions with one another.
- What has this affair done to our relationship? What series of events led up to it? Why did it happen?
- What roles did we both play in contributing to the infidelity? What's missing in our relationship? How can we work on those things? What has this affair taught us about ourselves and our relationship?
- Can forgiveness be granted towards my partner? Can I forgive myself (this is for the perpetrator)?
- How can we prevent this from happening again?
Make sure that your relationship is your number one priority, working hard on communication, negotiating differences, and identifying each others needs. Make a vow to never take your relationship or each other for granted. Be focused on experiencing new things together, being genuinely honest with one another, not blatantly honest as that causes bruised egos. An example of being genuinely honest would be if your partner had on an outfit that was not-so-flattering and they asked you your opinion of it, instead of saying, "That outfit is fucking ugly," be genuinely honest by saying, "I have seen you look better".
Go back to the days when you two first started dating. Share your goals and aspirations with one another and encourage one another. This is the time to rebuild your union, and create a relationship that will be stronger than ever before.
Having a good support system around you is awesome, however during this time of reconciliation it is best to keep people out of your business, and if at all possible not reveal the affair to them to begin with. In doing so it can cause added stress for you, and biased opinions based on your friends' loyalty. If you choose to share, determine as a couple how much you will reveal to outside influences. Everything else keep private. Sometimes people have specific motives for their input, and you never know if a friend or acquaintance will purposely sabotage your relationship in order to get closer to you or your partner.
Sex is another issue, and an activity that is sure to remind the two of you, how you arrived at this particular point in your relationship. Due to the passion that arises after the revelation of an affair, some couples get right back into intercourse, also known as make-up sex. The sight of your lover crying uncontrollably, apologizing, and looking completely lost and alone can make you want to embrace them, gazing into their eyes to hopefully find a spec of love still within them, sometimes sex is inevitable at this moment. But once that moment of passion is over, reality will once again set in. It is okay to ease back into sex if you feel uncomfortable and your emotions are still high. Take this time to re-establish intimacy, through non-sexual expressions of your love and admiration for one another. Make sure that your relationship is defined as monogamous or non-monogamous, before proceeding on the road to reconciliation.
Trying to save a relationship under the haunting eye of infidelity is far from easy, but it is possible. If you so choose to stay together take the negativity surrounding the affair, and apply it to making things better than they ever were. Use it as a tool to find out what went wrong in your relationship that helped lead up to this heartbreaking occurrence. Be patient, kind, understanding, and dedicated during this complicated milestone in your union, and stay focused on what the both of you want out of this relationship, and what you want it to be. Love conquers all, including cheating.
Sex is another issue, and an activity that is sure to remind the two of you, how you arrived at this particular point in your relationship. Due to the passion that arises after the revelation of an affair, some couples get right back into intercourse, also known as make-up sex. The sight of your lover crying uncontrollably, apologizing, and looking completely lost and alone can make you want to embrace them, gazing into their eyes to hopefully find a spec of love still within them, sometimes sex is inevitable at this moment. But once that moment of passion is over, reality will once again set in. It is okay to ease back into sex if you feel uncomfortable and your emotions are still high. Take this time to re-establish intimacy, through non-sexual expressions of your love and admiration for one another. Make sure that your relationship is defined as monogamous or non-monogamous, before proceeding on the road to reconciliation.
Trying to save a relationship under the haunting eye of infidelity is far from easy, but it is possible. If you so choose to stay together take the negativity surrounding the affair, and apply it to making things better than they ever were. Use it as a tool to find out what went wrong in your relationship that helped lead up to this heartbreaking occurrence. Be patient, kind, understanding, and dedicated during this complicated milestone in your union, and stay focused on what the both of you want out of this relationship, and what you want it to be. Love conquers all, including cheating.
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